tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14710344.post1418993255451748771..comments2023-11-03T05:46:44.728-04:00Comments on RevGalBlogPals: Ask the Matriarch – The Long (or not so long?) GoodbyeStephanie Anthony/She Revhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10089531643725874239noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14710344.post-35631988606822927002010-12-17T12:20:12.155-05:002010-12-17T12:20:12.155-05:004 weeks tops. I would tell everyone... including ...4 weeks tops. I would tell everyone... including co-pastors... co-workers... on day 1... and the congregation... via a letter that goes out that same day. If you tell the co-pastors... or elders... they are gonna talk... and where there is no truth... gossip will set in with the congregation. This and 6 bucks will buy you a coffee from Starbucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14710344.post-63848479572236146092010-12-16T20:35:20.003-05:002010-12-16T20:35:20.003-05:00I've been through this several times on the le...I've been through this several times on the leaving end--both from an assistant's position and as vicar--and on the staying behind end twice with retirements and once with someone moving to another position. <br /><br />What I have experienced is that the person leaving often has a great desire to tell people, to get the news out. However, it is really hard for a congregation to know how to live with someone once they know you are going. I think the 4-6 week window is about right, with the short end of that if you are in more of an assisting position and the long end if you are the primary leader. There may be one or two lay people in critical positions and colleagues who should know sooner, but resist the urge to share the news too soon.Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07399176212493797062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14710344.post-16579559959239458702010-12-16T10:20:10.433-05:002010-12-16T10:20:10.433-05:00When I left my first call (albeit a different circ...When I left my first call (albeit a different circumstance than yours) I gave 7 weeks notice. For me, it turned out to be too long. After about 5-6 weeks, it felt like it was time to go. Whenever I leave my current congregation, I'll go with a 5-6 week timeline.Shalomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06089748396867624769noreply@blogger.com