You are right; no awkwardness is unprecedented, wedding-wise! We pastors are well acquainted with the wedding couple who has an unfortunate (thoughtless, ignorant, too cute) idea that they want the pastor to bless or want the church to be a party to or a backdrop for. We do counsel couples through their "interesting" ideas for music and poems and all kinds of things they imagine for their wedding day. I try to say "yes" to as much as possible within a flexible frame of decent, orderly Christian worship because I want the couple to make this their day.
That said, the invitations to the wedding are solely the responsibility of the wedding couple. Any decision regarding invitations belongs to them. The church's worship bulletin, however, is your responsibility as pastor. My advice: Don't put this invitation in the bulletin. I do not see here a wording problem; I see a boundary issue. Don't let their complex, awkward inviting challenge become your problem to solve. If this dilemma feels like triangulation, that's because it is!
Even if wedding invitations are commonly put in your worship bulletin, this can be seen as new territory, since there isn't on file "wedding-yes; reception-no" invitation wording. Gently, firmly let the couple know that they will have to issue their own invitations. I would use this as an occasion to change the church's wedding policy to stipulate that no wedding invites will be printed in the bulletin.
If you simply can't avoid printing their invitation in the bulletin, the wording should be the couple's own wording for they are the ones inviting.
It didn't sound like it, but if, by some chance, this question comes from a wedding couple that includes one or two authorized ministers of the congregation, then please seriously rethink this and figure out a creative plan that doesn't involve treating some of your parishioners differently from others.
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