What have you found that works for you - so that you are also being fed and not always doing the feeding.
earthchick offers three recommendations:
I have found three things that have helped me in receiving spiritual nurture and guidance. The first is a spiritual director. The concept of spiritual direction is not something very familiar in my tradition (Baptist), but I have found it to be an invaluable part of my own spiritual growth. I view my spiritual director as my pastor. I do not see her as often as I would like to, but she is always a phone call away. The second resource is spiritual friendship and group spiritual direction. Over the last several years I have been involved in two different groups of women ministers who gather regularly to listen to each other and provide spiritually-based feedback and guidance. None of us is elevated as the head of the group, we simply rely on the group as a whole to lead, disciple, encourage, and support. The third resource that has helped me a huge amount in the last year would probably not be considered Christian discipleship by some, but for me it has been an essential part of my spiritual life, and that has been my yoga practice. My yoga teacher, though not Christian, has provided a kind of spiritual nurture for me that I wasn't finding regularly elsewhere. The things she says in leading the class are consistent with my own Christian understanding, and each week I feel more spiritually challenged and refreshed than I do almost anywhere else. If I were mentoring a young pastor just starting out in ministry, I would suggest that she find a spiritual director if possible, that she find or create a group of colleagues willing to covenant together in spiritual friendship and direction, and that she also be open to avenues beyond the traditional Christian church structures for receiving spiritual guidance.
The two practices that I have found that best shape and disciple me as a pastor are working with a Spiritual Director and participating in an accountability group
Rector in Hawai'i writes about how she has developed strategies for pastoral well-being:
I go into retreat twice a year -- at the convent of St Margaret's in Boston, where my spiritual director is superior of the order. I also talk with her at least once a month.
I keep my weekly Sabbath day. If I can't, I find another day to "make up" for the Sabbath I lost. I do non-church stuff that day -- like reading mysteries or watching videos or going to local tourist attractions -- like the zoo or aquarium or the beach...
I have an advisory committee that meets weekly and functions as my sounding board along with staying on top of parish activities and issues.
We have a Rector's Warden, which means I get to appoint that person. It's her job to take care of the rector and act as her advocate. I trust that person to tell me when I'm getting tired or cranky or working too hard.
I'm not directly involved in every ministry. I trust parishioners to do what they do best or are interested in with a little guidance. If problems arise, I might step in. But more likely I'll have our associate or a parish leader step in first.
Long time Rector also recommends a spiritual director:
I have found it important to my growth and my ability to look to my blindspots to have always a spiritual director. I meet monthly with that person as a check in. It has been necessary for me that the director have no connection with the congregation - but others may have different experiences with this.
What do you do to maintain yourself - mind, body, spirit, emotions, soul?