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Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Wednesday Festival: Knit Together

Diane, who blogs at Faith in Community, shares a reflection on ministry to a family in great grief: her ministry, and that of the community of faith.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.

I said these words at a hospital on Tuesday in the late afternoon. We said these words because a baby had just been born, and his mother was holding him, and his father was standing over him, and his grandparents and his aunt were in the room.

The baby had died before he was born. No one knows why. He was beautiful, and all along the doctors had said he was perfect.

That afternoon we named him, as we also prayed and read scripture. We loved him. His mother and his father and his grandparents and his big sister and his aunt had loved him before his was born, as he was being knit together and as everyone was marvelling at his growth, and anticipating his birth.

The ones who loved him, they were also being knit together, they were knit together in their common love for one another and for him, in their anticipation and hope. Now they were knit together in grief as well.

On Friday many people came together in a memorial service. We prayed and sang. The baby's big sister danced during "Children of the Heavenly Father." There were families and friends and people from work, and people from our church, all being knit together in love and hope and in grief.

Some people in our church have known this family, this father and mother, since they were children. They have walked together, learned together, worshiped together, served together. They have sponsored refugees and taught English and served meals. They have rejoiced with them, and now they are weeping with them. Did they know, all these years, that they were being knit together into the body of Christ? And did they know that this would cause both great joy and grief to them someday?

We are being knit together by love and anticipation, by joy and by grieving. We are being knit together as we anticipate the reign of God and live now in this reality. We are being knit together, and sometimes this causes us unbelievable joy, and sometimes almost unbearable sorrow.

Beloved, we are God's children now; what we will be has not yet been revealed. What we do know is this: when he is revealed, we will be like him, for we will see him as he is.
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  1. What a loving description of grief and life coming together. Bless that family and the ways which we all walk through the vale of tears.

    I love the knitting--it literally gets me through grief and strife in life. But the larger picture really is such a strong image of God beside us. Thank you for blessing us with this post Mary Beth.

  2. I appreciated this when I read it on Diane's blog, and appreciate it all the more here. Thanks, MB. And Diane, for this reflection of love and prayer.

    I've been thinking about love and prayer and God and Jesus from a different perspective. You can read, here, about bread

  3. Such a moving story. I don't have words.
    Thank you, Mary Beth!

  4. Thank you all for sharing and posting this amazing story/gift.

    I am not a knitter...but I am so taken with the knitted heart in the photo. Anyone have instructions for the heart?

  5. I wish I had a pattern for the heart! I found it on this blog post:
    Traveling Oma

    I searched Google Images on "knit together" and that was the first image that came up.

    It looks like it may be spool knitting?

  6. well, Mary Beth, it was lovely. Thank you.

  7. And in these moments we are knit together with families everywhere over all time. And we thank God for the blessing of being chosen to be Present in these kinds of MOST HOLY TIMES.

  8. this was a great story -- and I resonated with it in many ways... thanks for posting it!



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